SELF DOUBT AND ANXIETY
Learning how to deal with your mental health is something that takes patience. But no matter how much time passes, there are still days when you wake up feeling overwhelmed by your own self doubt.
I’ve spoken before about my mental health, but that was nearly a year and a half ago. Since then, I’ve learnt a lot about myself and my mental health. The triggers are noted, the way I deal with it has become second nature, and it never lasts long.
But then there are some days when I feel extremely overwhelmed. I start to feel on edge, and like my to-do list is insurmountable, no matter how much or how little is on it.
When this ball starts rolling, it can feel like it gets out of control. One day I’m on top of the world, taking on anything that gets thrown my way and feeling accomplished. The next I’m sitting at the dinner table crying about not feeling good enough because I feel so under pressure.
But this is all my own doing, unfortunately – which means the blame lies solely with me.
It’s so easy to become wrapped up in your own mind, to put immense pressure on yourself to succeed and achieve things whilst maintaining your personal relationships and managing a healthy, balanced lifestyle. But there are times when if it rains, it pours, and you start to feel like the storm will never pass.
The really important thing, is to learn to take a step back and make it stop. You have to learn when to stop pushing yourself to the edge, and cut yourself some slack.
There’s nothing wrong with canceling plans, and being honest to yourself and the people around you that you’re not coping. There doesn’t have to be a reason, or an explanation, but there has to be a stopping point.
I’ve decided it’s time to make some changes in how I deal with myself, and my thoughts. Because this feeling can be avoided, it just takes a bit of honesty.
FOCUS ON THE PRESENT
It’s easy to get so focused on what’s going to happen in the future that you forget to appreciate what’s happening in the present. Ignore the what if’s and the little voices of doubt that creep up when you start to spiral. Keep yourself grounded by remembering to switch off from work, your side project or your day to day activities. Put your phone down, take yourself away from work and spend time with your loved ones and friends.
WORK SMARTER, NOT HARDER
The notion that in order to achieve great things you need to work all the hours you have without a break, is stupid. You don’t have to sacrifice your personal relationships, your social life or your free time in order to reach your goals. Work smarter by working consistently, get a routine down, make lists, and give yourself an end time. It’s not worth the anxiety of and stress to work late or last minute for the sake of it.
SHARE THE PROBLEM
Don’t bottle up your feelings through fear that someone else won’t understand them. A problem shared is a problem halved, and it will shock you how many people are dealing with exactly the same feelings as you. But if you think that a conversation with friends and family isn’t going to make a difference, and you’re spiralling without being able to stop, it might be best to seek out some professional help. Sometimes it takes talking to a complete stranger, who has no emotional attachment to you or your life, to be able to see clearly and help yourself.
The most important thing when you start to feel overwhelmed by your own mind is to take a step back, and remember you are in control. You have the power to change your mindset, and your attitude to life. Sometimes we need that extra help to realise that, and that’s ok. Your mental health is important, and if you’re struggling with it, that does not make you a burden.